Many of the thoughts which later appeared in Lewis's published chronicle of grief first appeared in his letters. On 25 July 1960, just twelve days after his wife's death, Lewis wrote to Katharine Farrer:
"I'm learning a good many things about grief wh. the novelists and poets never told me. It has as many different facets as love or anger or any other passion. In the lulls -- between the peaks -- there is something in it v. like fidgety boredom: like just 'hanging about waiting' -- tho' what the deuce one thinks one is waiting for I don't know." Collected Letters, Volume III, p. 1175
The great comfort in grief, perhaps the only real comfort, is that we have a God who once condescended to truly experience our grief with us. For we read that at the grave of his friend Lazarus: "Jesus wept." John 11:35
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